Thursday, January 28, 2016

"There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so"

I always used to think of myself as a bit wishy washy, so easily persuaded from one side of the argument to the other, an easy sell even. I was always jealous of those who identified so strongly with a particular cause, social issue or way of life. They all seemed to look so comfortable and secure with their like-minded friends. From church groups to school cliques, nothing ever seemed to be worth the fight for me. It may have partially been due to my inherent laziness or lack of fiery passion, who knows. But I’ve since come to embrace my grey area, middle of the road thinking and now feel it’s a virtue.
Some people believe that humans are a disease, that we are a collective virus with only the power to destroy ourselves and our planet. Some believe in the inner goodness of human kind, that we can do great and wonderful things due to our capacity to love that no other species has. Again, I find myself wandering down the middle of that street, nodding my head in both directions. I believe in the humanness of human nature, a blend of extreme selfishness and the need to help our brothers and sisters. We are a paradox within ourselves, just waiting to explode. And we play out this paradox of life within the confines of our day-to-day lives, having so many opinions about right and wrong, good or bad, left or right. To quote Shakespeare, “there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” What is good to some is considered bad to others and vice-versa. How then, do we start to make sense of these matters and decide which side to identify with and how we should define ourselves? Or should the real question be, why do we have such need to define ourselves?

So many issues, so many points of view, so many takes on life and why we are here. Guns or no guns? This God or that God and which book did she write? Let your kid cry itself to sleep or hold it tight through the night? Who am I to say who is right and who is wrong? I don’t attend rallies, I don’t go door to door to push any cause or religion, and admittedly, I rarely vote. But at the same time I know there is need for all of this in the world. We need those passionate people who are so inclined to show everyone what they believe is the right way to live, to be, to vote. If we didn’t, we would be a large group of misinformed, complacent zombies.  Where I believe we got lost is our ability to have empathy, to have a point of view yet understand that others may think differently, to listen to a person’s story and feel the way that they feel, if only for a moment, and to know that there is no way we can fully understand their journey as if it were our own, and make a decision for them that we believe is in their best interest.

This lack of empathy is the ego that lives in all of us. The need to be right and call you wrong or to fit perfectly within the pretty little box labeled Democrat, Christian, Pro-Choice, etc., is the ego trying to feed itself and feel it’s self-worth. And when we feed it, we separate ourselves from others and become further away from compassion and empathy. We become so self-centered that it is hard to see past our own convictions and bloated opinions. If we could only learn to recognize this voice in our heads as just that, a voice that says “feed me and I will define you and put you in your pretty box”.  Maybe then we can tell it to shut up sometimes, we can learn to be still and listen. We can begin to feel the world and those around us and hear a different story or see a different journey, and realize that we are not so different after all.

Monday, December 28, 2015

FA LA La la la......whatever

Ugh, the holidays. Love 'em and hate 'em. The twinkle in the kid's eyes on Christmas morning when they see their stockings filled to the top, the joy of playing games and sipping coco by the fire, the happiness and full hearts when we see our family and treasured friends together in one room; all great things. The insane holiday shopping crowds, the hectic schedules, trying to whip up homemade gifts in a hurry, rushing back to the store on Christmas Eve because you forgot something on your endless list, the dog knocking all of the ornaments off the tree trying to chase the cat; these are things I can do without.

This year is coming to a close, and I reflect back, as hard as things get sometimes, I know that I am truly blessed in my family and friends. And that is the important stuff. I hope everyone is able to look back on the year and think the same.

Here are a few new treasures we whipped up over the past couple of months.

Thursday, November 12, 2015

Business is Business, and Business Must Grow...

...To quote the Onceler, yes we are biggering and biggering here at Lace & Sawdust! (Sorry, The Lorax is my daughter's favorite book and sometimes I channel fictional characters when I am sleep deprived)

But anyway...

It's exciting times on the Lace & Sawdust front. It's been a while since our last post, but we've been painting our booties off and moving into our big, luxurious new booth at 4th Street Antiques! And may I say, it looks pretty freaking fabulous!

And it's about to get even bigger! Lace & Sawdust is officially a DIY Paint vendor!!! Coming Thanksgiving weekend, we will be launching the awesome paint line from Debi's Design Diary here in the store!

November 28th, all day long, will be Old Town Temecula's Holiday Open House where many of the antique and vintage shops will be highlighting some of their favorite vendors, and yep, that's right, we will be there! Laura and I will be showing off some of our awesome creations, as well as hosting a free make-and-take for everyone to check out the new paint! Paint a frame or a sign and see for yourself how awesome this paint is!
Because you can! And because DIY chalk paint is what everyone, EVERYONE, EVERYONE NEEDS!!!!